Touch me?


My friend, may I ask you a question? How hard would it be for you to personally remove all the hugs that you’ve ever given to friends in friendship or to the sorrowful in need? If we succeed in removing all intimacy from our social relationships, how strong can those relationships really be?

My friend, life’s a story, welcome to This Passing Day. I’m Mark Brunner.


A number of years ago I attended a political rally with a young friend who was interested in getting into politics. We witnessed a rousing campaign speech in the midst of a closely packed crowd. Everyone was packed together and body contact was unavoidable. At the end of the campaign speech the crowd went wild with enthusiasm as the candidate made his way to the bus. Local campaign workers ushered the candidate to his bus and there were hugs and kisses to go around aplenty. As the bus pulled away I turned to my young friend and remarked how great it was that everyone felt so free to let their hair down and actually touch one another. He remarked, “Yes! But the youth club I belong to recently adopted a N.T.P. policy. When I asked what the policy was, he said: “A no touch policy. We’re not allowed to show emotion in any way that involves touch.”

“We’re not allowed to touch!” Those words really struck me. Unfortunately, we live in a society where it’s the norm as opposed to the exception. It also struck me as to how hard it would be for me personally to remove all the hugs that I’ve ever given to friends in friendship or to the sorrowful in need. If we succeed in removing all intimacy from our social relationships, how strong can those relationships really be?

Here’s a story: The University of Northern Iowa once offered a general art course that included a most unusual exercise. The teacher brought to class a shopping bag filled with lemons and gave a lemon to each class member. The assignment was for the student to keep his lemon with him day and night–smelling, handling, examining it. Next class period, without warning, students were told to put their lemons back in the bag. Then each was asked to find his lemon. Surprisingly, most did so without difficulty. Without intimate relationships, the task would have been near impossible. (Source Unknown)

Should keeping our relationships with one another fresh and fulfilling exclude touching one another? In a society so fearful of touch, it almost seems so. The Bible tells us that there is a “time to embrace and a time to refrain” (Ecclesiastes 3:5). Could it be that God himself is grieved when those He has personally touched with His love, refrain from touching one another? Could it also be that by removing intimacy, we remove the surest way of knowing who our friends really are? How sad it would be to live in a society that on the one hand is so free with touching others with our words and so stingy in allowing you and I to simply touch each other with a simple hug or gentle touch?

We pray. Heavenly Father, I pray for all who read this, that you give them a spirit longing to touch as well as speak. If there be any sickness, sadness or grief, I pray that you would help us heal others without the fear. Give us the wisdom and the understanding to know when touch is needed and how it best be given. May you bless that which we set our hands to do. Help us Lord to understand the importance of touch just as Christ taught us how important touching was in His ministry. May it also be in ours. In Jesus name we pray. Amen!

Therefore my friend, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry for itself; each day has enough trouble of its own. (Matt 6:34) This Passing Day. May this passing day honor our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and be a blessing to you and everyone you meet. Find a stranger and say hello. Don't let another day pass without your day blessing someone else.

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<markcbrunner@thispassingday.com> From Beech Springs, God bless you for Jesus sake.

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