Counsel?


My friend, may I ask you a question? If it’s obvious someone is hurting and in need of sympathy, we ought to give them what they are asking for. When we’re confronted with someone’s damaged emotions, is choosing the right tool the option that makes all the difference?

My friend, life’s a story, welcome to This Passing Day. I’m Mark Brunner.

I used to own an old garden tractor that Holly often called the “rolling risk.” It was old and ailing in many respects; but it cut grass and moved snow nonetheless. That all ended one day when my son was cutting the grass and an electrical fire broke out in the engine compartment. My first thought was “where’s a bucket of water!” However, having been told that electrical fires don’t react well to water, I opted for a fire extinguisher instead. The fire was extinguished in seconds when the white foam hit that hot engine block. Choosing foam over water was the better choice.

Similarly, when we’re confronted with someone’s damaged emotions, choosing the right tool makes all the difference.

Chuck Swindoll writes: “Even though the little creatures in Winnie the Pooh are imaginary, we can see ourselves in them. This particular scenario reveals how downright insensitive we often are. Pooh Bear is walking along the riverbank. Eeyore, his stuffed donkey friend, suddenly appears floating downstream on his back, obviously troubled abut the possibility of drowning. Pooh calmly asks if Eeyore had fallen in. Trying to appear in complete control, the anguished donkey answers, ‘Silly of me, wasn’t it.’ Pooh overlooks his friend’s pleading eyes and remarks that Eeyore really should have been more careful. Almost with a yawn, Pooh Bear continues, ‘I think you are sinking.’ With that as his only hint of hope, drowning Eeyore asks Pooh if he would mind rescuing him. So, Pooh pulls him from the river. Eeyore apologizes for being such a bother, and Pooh, still unconcerned, yet ever so courteous, responds, ‘Don’t be silly you should have said something sooner.’” (Charles R. Swindoll, Compassion)

Unlike Pooh’s response, a good rule when confronting someone else’s sorrow is: don’t minimize the problem. If it’s obvious they’re hurting and in need of sympathy, give them what they are asking for. Don’t give them your advice or, worse yet, analyze how they got there. The worse thing you can do when someone is hurting is to be instructive. It’s like throwing water on an electrical fire. They need your love, not your advice. Never minimize the problem. Acknowledge it and show them that you care. In turn you become a vessel into which their grief may be poured.

We pray. Heavenly Father, when we have a friend or family member that is hurting, we want to help. We often know in our hearts what they need to do in order to lose their hurt, because Your Word instructs us, even compels us to offer them our advice. Yet, Father, Your Word also speaks of patience, kindness, love and forgiveness. Help us to apply a compassionate response to our hurting brother or sister in Christ, rather than giving them our advice. Forgive us when we enter into a conversation based on the way we feel instead of the way they do. We praise You O Lord because that is the way You also deal with us when we are sad and lonely. In Jesus name we pray. Amen!

Therefore my friend, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry for itself; each day has enough trouble of its own. (Matt 6:34) This Passing Day. May this passing day honor our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ and be a blessing to you and everyone you meet. Find a stranger and say hello. Don't let another day pass without your day blessing someone else.

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<thispassingday@gmail.com> From Beech Springs, God bless you for Jesus sake.

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